>> Wednesday, 24 April 2013
I feel as if Husband and I have hit a sweet-spot in The Boys' development. We are having a moment of calm, in parenting terms. We're through the nappy years, through the toddler and pre-school years, through the trauma of the first years of school. Our sons are working hard, playing hard, developing well. They are healthy, open, affectionate, and - mostly - still listen to us.
It can't last.
This is one of those posts.
Being a parent it's easy to get bogged down by the details of everyday life. What kit do the kids need for school today? Did I ever get round to washing their swim towels after last Tuesday's session? Should we take the car or cycle this morning - is it going to rain by this afternoon? Have I got enough bread in the house to make lunch for them tomorrow? Do they even need lunch tomorrow or is it one of the days they get to eat in the school cafeteria? And so on. From the moment they arrive in this world - tiny, shouting, blood-smeared and demanding your attention - raising a child, whilst rewarding, fogs your focus. The volume levels may alter but the end result for parents can be constant static and white noise.
That white noise - it can be very distracting. You become so busy dealing with it all that you forget to celebrate the good stuff, the moments that remind you it is all worthwhile, that you are living this life for a reason and that two very large parts of that reason are standing right in front of you.
Where to start on how wonderful my sons are at this moment in time, at 9 and 7 years old? I almost don't dare. I don't want to jinx it, you see. I don't want to look back on this post in the future when the world is collapsing around my ears - as no doubt it will when they hit adolescence, if not before - and think 'Ah. That's where it all started to go wrong. When you wrote about your love for them, and brought the wrath of the gods down on you for being too proud of them.'
Because I AM proud of them. I am. They are not the product of mine or Husbands' endeavours, they are not our projects, they are not mini-me's who's successes or failures are something to be trotted out to friends and family in 'didn't I do well as a parent?' anecdotes and point-scoring exercises. They are individuals in their own right, with their own personalities, likes and dislikes, passions, faults, moans and gripes, talents and friendships.
They are funny, loving, infuriating, smart, cheeky, affectionate, frustrating, hardworking, tenacious, clumsy, loyal, adventurous, forgiving, ambitious, intrepid, and grounded.
They are loved beyond their understanding.
And they are amazing.
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