British Mummy Blogger of the Week

>> Sunday, 13 June 2010

Whenever Husband and I, in the sweet ignorance of youth, spoke about having children (before we actually did, that is), we always said that we wanted either two, or four. I know that three kids is a good number - that's how many there were in both of our families, in fact - but we felt that sometimes - just sometimes - the dynamic worked out as 2 plus one, and that it was usually the same 'one' who was left on the outside.


So, two or four. That's what we believed we wanted, and continued to do until Boy #2 arrived and suddenly the wheels fell off our well-worked out plans when it became clear that having 2 children didn't just double the work, it tripled it. (For us, at any rate). There was of course also the small fact that we weren't getting any younger and if we kept the same spacing - approximately 2 years between each child - I would be 43 before our 4th child arrived (always assuming that everything went smoothly and things went to plan, which of course was highly unlikely).

So we stopped at 2 boys. And whilst I'm (mostly) OK with that, I do wonder from time to time what it would have been like to have a tribe of boys rather than just the two (because you just know, don't you, that they would all have been boys.) Luckily for me, however, there are plenty of bloggers out there who can tell me what larger families than mine get up to, and this week's recommended British Mummy Blogger is one of them. 'FourDownMumToGo' writes of herself:

'Do you know, I never liked children (I still don't some days). I never rushed across the office to wrest newborns from the arms their frazzled mothers taking a brief break from maternity leave, resisted the pleas of tiny relatives to read them stories and failed to earn a penny babysitting during my misspent teenage years, so just how did I end up mum to four boys? And more importantly just how will I cope without the assistance of round the clock childcare or at the very least a lifetime supply of Gordons and tonic?'

You have to love a writer who so neatly encapsulates the pang of saying goodbye to early motherhood with the regret that she will never again 'trail out of a hospital dragging foil helium balloons and a car seat filled with the rest of my life'.

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4 comments:

Couture 13 June 2010 at 10:23  

My ideal was 4 - 2 of each with a long gap between the 2 sets. But #3 turned up too soon and having 3 under 3 yrs old was enough to send my husband to the vasectomy clinic - driven by me! I do still wish we had another boy for my son but am just happy to have survived with my sanity!

nappy valley girl 13 June 2010 at 14:18  

Excellent choice - a brilliant blogger (and I'm not just biased because she's one of my oldest friends)........

A Modern Mother 13 June 2010 at 20:37  

Great pick, thanks for doing this!

Mwa 13 June 2010 at 21:17  

We're considering stopping at three. Always difficult, these decisions. I hope I won't miss being just four of us. Also - in my family we were three girls, one boy; three players, one reader; one disabled, three not - it never works out how you plan anyway, I think. My husband is one of three and thinks it's fine.

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